God Hates Women?
I attended the
NGO Forum on Fourth World Conference on Women, held in Beijing,
the first two weeks of September, 95. During the conference, I was
given so many brochures, handouts, books and other material by the
religious establishments against the equality of the sexes which
convinced me that God, the Almighty, must have some animosity toward
women. Now I am asking why?
First was the
Catholic Church, and its representative Marry Ann Glendon, a Law
Professor, while representing Vatican City, who put womanhood in
shame by calling the United Nation's document anti-family. In my
opinion Vatican itself is anti-family. The fact that the Catholic
Church believes in celibacy is a sign of disregard of the church
for "family" and its values. Vatican City is a "city
of priests" who have no understanding of what is all about
family and children. They never raised any. How could they know
what it takes to have and raise children.
A typical Catholic
Pope has never been married, or had a child. He has never had to
mourn the death of a child or that of a spouse. He has never been
unemployed, laid off, homeless, hungry, cold, and with no one to
turn to. How in the world does he know what it is to raise children
under the conditions listed above.
say that the Pope was privileged and blessed by God. But why? Why
was he blessed and privileged? Why did God only bless men? Has God
the Almighty for some unknown reason prejudice towards women? Is
that why he sent 124,000 messengers to this world all of them men?
It was not God
that made the Pope, the Ayatollah, the Rabbi and other religious
leaders privileged. It was them themselves who made us believe that
they were unique and blessed. And we made them privileged by our
hard work and unlimited financial support.
And now as the
technology takes us forward in the 21st century, we are questioning
the legitimacy of these people and more and more we are refusing
to listen to them and support them.
That is why
they are so much against birth control and population control. A
lower percentage of a bigger pie is a lot more than a larger piece
of a smaller pie. So the world population must increase so that
the Priests, the Ayatollahs, the Rabbis and the Monks can continue
their financially secured lives even if only one percent of the
populous supports them.
And then there
are the Moslem countries who propagate the Islamic Wisdom which
has been mostly taken from that of the Judaism.
In his book,
"The Wisdom behind the Islamic Laws Regarding Women",
Shaykh Abdur-Rahman Abdul-Khalig quotes from Koran 2:228, "Women
have such honorable rights as obligations, but men have a single
degree above them."
What proof does
he have that this is the word of the creator? Why do women are born
with obligations? The fact that women carry their children in their
womb does not make them totally responsible and obligated for their
In another place
in the same book the Shaikh continues by saying that "Allah
commended men to be responsible for the care of women and their
children." And if she has no male relatives, "the obligation
falls upon the community. The responsibility of her care is a communal
obligation; if non fulfills that, all have sinned."
So the community
has sinned. What happens to the woman and her children? Must they
be left to die? So that the community can be punished in some other
life which so far we have no information about!
Isn't the welfare
state a form of communal obligation for the care of the women and
their children who have no men or have been abandoned by them? And
isn't this same system of communal obligation that is being challenged
in the United States by the Republican Party, the Religious Right
and the Christian Coalition?
why should a capable woman with potential to earn a good living
and contribute to the progress of her society become a charity case
because some men had said, some hundreds of years ago, that she
Why is that
all religions place such a heavy burden on women for "family
values"? Don't men have anything to do with family and its
values? Why is it that everyone always combines the words women
and children together? Children don't belong to women only. They
have fathers too. Then why nobody talks about the fathers?
Why is it that
Mr. Newt Gingrich who abandoned his wife and children can run for
office, get elected, become the speaker of the house, write a book,
be a pillar of the society and a woman who abandons her child will
face imprisonment? Why? These are shameful "family values!"
An Average woman
is able to bear one child every sixteen to eighteen months for a
period of forty years of her life and after some 20 or more pregnancies,
her child-bearing machine breaks down. Average man, however, can
make a child every day or even every hour for some 70 plus years
of his life with almost no breakdown. So why is the problem of population
explosion, birth-control, and all measures for family planning and
raising children are placed on women? Women can not produce children
by themselves. So why do we keep asking women to keep their legs
together why not asking men to take a cold shower?
Why not educate
men about birth-control and sterilization after they had one or
two children. There are irresponsible men who start second and third
families during different stages of their lives. Isn't it time to
make men to accept at least half the responsibility for their sexual
is that religion is a man-made issue and has nothing to do with
what the creator had planned. We created religion, therefore, we
can change, modify and even if needed replace it.
Catholic Church and its leaders are no authority on family and its
problems so they must not get involved in this issue. Why doesn't
the Catholic Church start paying child support to all these millions
of women who took their advice and did not use birth-control. It
is easy to sit on a, red velvet covered, filled with gold ornamental
chair, in a fabulous castle away from all the family problems and
tell others "to be fruitful and multiply."
could sympathize with millions of women who were left by their irresponsible
husbands to raise their kids in poverty alone. Because all the religious
leaders were men, for centuries, they advocated in their gender's
favor and placed all blames and all responsibilities and obligations
for child bearing and child raising on women.
leaders, such as the priests, the mullah's, the rabbis, and the
monks all have had a wonderful life. They have been praised and
worshipped, fed and clothed, kept warm in the winter and cool in
the summer, traveled first class and have been pampered most of
We, women, have
obligated ourselves and have sacrificed our lives, and our freedom
for the sake of our husbands, children, society, country, and politics
for 20 centuries, only because of what men have told us. They told
us it was our duty and obligation to obey. We no longer accept this
male superiority and will do away with patriarchy.
That was why
all of us from all over the world including Hillary Rodham Clinton,
gathered in Beijing. We finally did something for us. It took us
1995 years, but we did it at last.
I am certain that it is not the creator that hates us.