and The Institution of Marriage
(an article on traditional Islamic Marriage)
Dr. Parvin Darabi
From the beginning
of history and the establishment of laws and regulations, marriage
has always been the union of a man and a woman. This union has always
been based on love and affection and it was established so that
a man and a woman can be joined in matrimony in order to have children
and raise healthy families. Only in Islam this union is between
one man and multiple women.
Koran 4:3 states "And
if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans, then
marry such women as seem good to you, two, three and four; but if
you fear that you will not do justice (between them), then (marry)
only one or what your right hands possess; this is more proper,
that you may not deviate from the right course."
This verse says
that if one cannot be equitable toward orphans then one should marry
as many as four of them. However, if one feels that he cannot be
equitable then he must only marry one or what one's right hand possesses.
The clause "what your right hand possesses," in
Koran means "your slaves", or the women you have
captured in wars.
In addition it is not clear in this verse whether Allah is telling
Mohammed to be equitable toward the orphans or is it Mohammed who
is telling the believers. If it is Allah who is speaking to Mohammed
then it means that the prophet was not able to be equitable towards
the orphans and since there were many of them, Allah told him to
marry as many as he wanted. This could be in line with what many
Muslims claim that Allah only told the prophet to marry more than
one woman in order to take care of the orphans and the needy.
of the prophets wives were neither orphans or needy. Aiesha was
the only child of Abu Baker and many Muslims claim that this marriage
was made in heaven between a 54 years old man and a six years old
child in order to use Abu Baker's wealth in promoting Islam. But
Abu Baker is the number one man who became Muslim many years before
his daughter was even born. He also became the first Khalifa (caliph)
after the prophet. Therefore, there was no need for the prophet
to marry this child. In addition Zeynab was married to Zeid who
was asked by his father, the prophet, to divorce Zeynab so he could
Prophets fourth wife, even though a widow was the daughter of Omar,
who was by all means a wealthy man. There was no financial need
for her to marry the Prophet.
But what about
the orphan boys? The verse just says be equitable to orphans
and if you cannot be equitable to them then marry them. We cannot
accept that all the orphans at that time were female. There must
have been male orphans around. And surely Allah did not believe
in homosexuality and bisexuality. So what happens to the male orphans?
There are no explanations.
Now we know
that the prophet married more than one woman. And let's assume that
he was equitable toward them. If he was equitable to them, why did
the women complain? What was the reason behind the revelation Al
Tahrim 5, or 36:5?
Why did Allah
state that "May be his Lord, if he divorces you, will give
him in your place wives better than you, submissive, faithful, obedient,
penitent, adorers, fasters, widows and virgin."
The only reason
for this revelation is that the prophet could not be equitable to
all his wives. In addition why would Allah refer to himself as "his
lord?" Was Allah only the Lord of the prophet Mohammed or was
he the lord of all the Muslims? Why would Allah refer to himself
in third person? And why the word "May be?" If Allah is
a powerful being, why would he use the phrase "May be?"
Isn't He sure of himself? I believe this is Mohammed talking and
has nothing to do with his god or Allah. First of all, God or Allah
did not need a middle man to put these women (prophet's wives) in
their place. If it was Allah saying all
these, he would have stated the revelation in this manner:
You wives of my Messenger, Listen to me carefully. If you do not
stop harassing my messenger I will tell him to divorce you all and
So this revelation is not from Allah. This is Mohammed speaking.
He is just unable to handle his wives complaints and then he comes
up with such a statement.
The last part
of the Koran 4:3 states that "this is more proper, that you
may not deviate from the right course." It is not clear what
is the proper or the right course. Is the right course marrying
one woman or marrying the ones captured in wars, or marrying, two,
three, or four women?
This is left for the reader to decide. Why would Allah the knowledgeable,
benevolent and merciful leave this up to his subjects to decide?
The reason is because it is not Allah but Mohammed who is talking.
Therefore we can conclude that Koran is a book written by man and
not a super natural.
Now lets think about the purpose of the institution of marriage
in Islam as stated above. In Islam, marriage is not considered a
union of love, affection, respect, support and sharing between a
man and a woman. In addition love, respect, affection, support and
sharing can only happen between men and women of comparable age,
and not between a child and a grown man. The marriage of a grown
man to a child can only be contributed to a mental disorder of the
man. Such a marriage can be regarded as a relation of master and
slave. Other Muslims claim that their prophet married so many women
to spread Islam and that is why men can marry up to four wives at
any given time. But none of Mohammed's wives ever bore him any children,
except his first wife Khadijeh and Marieh the slave girl given to
him by king of Egypt. They each gave birth to a male child and both
of them died in infancy. He had four daughters with his first wife.
The reason that Marieh got pregnant was because he spent an entire
month with her alone. This could have resulted in sufficient supply
of sperm to make a child. He married so many women and was not able
to leave behind a single male heir to his throne. What a pity!
believe that with one man being able to marry multitude of women,
Islam can spread around the globe like wild flowers. Since marriage
in Islam is only for procreation and the younger the woman the healthier
How can love
of one man be divided equitably between so many women? Even the
prophet himself was unable to do so. He cherished and worshipped
his youngest wife Aiesha (his six-year old bride) more than the
others. The institution of marriage of one man and multiple women
is what was described by Ayatollah Ghomi, "A rooster satisfies
several hens, an stallion several mares. A woman is unavailable
during certain periods where as a man is always active....",
LE MONDE, January 20, 1979. Therefore in Islam a man is nothing
more than an animal slaved to his sexual needs. His function is
to impregnate a multitude of women in order to expand the faith
of Islam. No wonder Islam is so proud of men such as Mullah Omar,
Khomeini, Usama Bin Laden and so on.
I have come
to the conclusion that the institution of marriage in Islam is nothing
but a whorehouse for the man and a jailhouse for the